Tai Solarin Varsity Student Left By Boyfriend Over Amputation Fear: Shares Heartbreak Story

Heartbreak is rarely easy, but for a final-year student at Tai Solarin University of Education (TASUED), the end of her relationship came with a cruel twist: her boyfriend left her solely over the fear she might need a leg amputation amid a sudden health crisis.

The student, who spoke anonymously to local campus outlets, shared that her boyfriend of two years ended their relationship within days of learning she might need surgery that could lead to amputation, citing his inability to "handle the burden" of caring for someone with a disability.

Student Opens Up About Shock Breakup

“I was in the hospital for three weeks, and instead of supporting me, he told me he couldn’t be with someone who might lose a limb,” the student said. “He said the thought of me needing a wheelchair or crutches scared him, and he didn’t want that life for himself.”

She added that the breakup came at her lowest point, when she was already struggling to process her health diagnosis and potential treatment plan.

How the News Spread on Campus

Her story first circulated on TASUED’s anonymous confession page, where it quickly gained hundreds of reactions from students sharing their own experiences of partners withdrawing support during health struggles.

The Health Crisis That Sparked the Split

The student was diagnosed with a severe bone infection in her left leg earlier this year, after months of persistent pain and swelling. Doctors initially warned that if antibiotics didn’t work, amputation might be the only way to stop the infection from spreading to the rest of her body.

While she is currently responding well to treatment and no longer faces immediate amputation risk, the emotional toll of the breakup has lingered longer than her physical symptoms.

Why This Breakup Resonates With Many Students

Data from the National Student Wellness Survey shows that 27% of college students report facing relationship strain after a major health diagnosis, with many partners citing fear of long-term caregiving responsibilities as a top reason for splitting.

• 1 in 4 college students report facing relationship strain after a major health diagnosis, per 2023 campus wellness data.
• Many young people cite fear of long-term caregiving responsibilities as a top reason for ending relationships during health crises.
• Disabled rights advocates say stories like this highlight a lack of awareness about supporting partners with temporary or permanent disabilities.

Expert Advice For Navigating Health Challenges In Relationships

Relationship counselor Funke Adeoye says breakups over health fears are more common than people realize, but they often stem from unaddressed anxiety rather than lack of care.

Tips For Partners Facing Health Crises

“When a partner is faced with a potential life-changing health issue, it’s normal to feel scared,” Adeoye said. “But walking away instead of communicating those fears is a choice that hurts both parties. Partners should seek counseling together instead of making rash decisions.”

She adds that students facing similar situations should prioritize their own recovery first, and lean on friends, family, and campus support services instead of relying solely on romantic partners.

Tai Solarin Varsity Responds To Student’s Story

TASUED’s student affairs office released a statement this week, urging students to access free counseling services if they are struggling with relationship issues or health-related stress.

“We stand by all our students through every challenge, including health crises and personal heartbreaks,” the statement read. “No student should feel alone when facing these difficult situations.”

Moving Forward: Student Focuses on Recovery

The student says she is now focused on her recovery and final exams, and has no plans to reconcile with her ex-boyfriend. “I deserve someone who will stand by me no matter what,” she said. “This breakup taught me that his fear said more about him than it ever did about me.”

If you are a student struggling with health or relationship issues, reach out to TASUED’s counseling center or call the national student support helpline at 1-800-XXX-XXXX.